After my divorce, I had the joy of finally being free from an abusive marriage.
I was supporting four children with very little support, but managing. We all felt very excited when we realized that we were in love and that we all wanted the same thing (a long-term committed relationship as three).
It took a little while for us to wrap our heads around that one, because it is so different than how we grew up thinking about the way love works.
Once we learned to see our partner’s individual relationship together as a strength and not a threat, we found ourselves released from the trap of jealousy and insecurity and that let us nurture and grow a deepening love.
By clicking or navigating the site, you agree to allow our collection of information on and off Facebook through cookies.We laughingly still can’t believe we had the guts to even try this in the first place! If we didn’t think the two families had the ability to blend well together, we never would have done it in the first place, because we feel very strongly about our kids and want the best for them. We were excited that we all loved each other, but it was easy to feel insecure. ” If he saw us being affectionate, he might worry, “Oh, no! They are going to hit it off and decide they don’t need me!If I saw them being super affectionate, I might worry, “Oh, no! ”That was what we would worry about, but it wasn’t ever actually true, as we would discover when we would share our fears with each other.It was later that we discovered there was a term for what we were.If we need a term, we consider ourselves “poly-fidelitous,” which is what poly’s call those who love more than one person in a long-term, faithful kind of way.